Communication and most of all “Effective Communication”
The other day I got this e-mail. It was a guy’s take on effective communication. It brought up one very interesting point amongst many. If you sit down with somebody like a friend or your wife/husband and are trying to have a conversation but can’t seem to get the point across. No matter how hard you try, you’re totally misunderstood. Whatever you are saying is misconstrued and you can’t seem to make any sense to them.
Or is it? The e-mail went on to explain that when you look at communication as “the result you get” which is the essence of this first principle is that it gives you ownership of the interactions with other people.
The communication and also when done like this is fine if you are working at getting and trying too hard to make your self understood in a “web of different explanations”.
Personally I think that you should always ask yourself this one simple question, How can I explain this in one simple way only that makes sense to them?
Staying simple is always the best way. At times we all do it, we make it more difficult than it has to be.
Hey, even here, I’m making it more difficult than it is. Communication and effective communication is when you drive a point home to somebody and they understand the simplicity of a subject that you are talking about. They simply understand you since you explained it using terminology that is simple and right to the point. Effective communication is when you have explained something to somebody and they can explain it back to you making references to your explanation in such a way that you understand what they are saying. You made them understand and re-explain it to you as a confirmation of their understanding. You have full ownership of the communication process that way. You have now obtained the leverage and this is your beginning only. If you understand this process and can use it regularly you are a good communicator. Listening to some of the best motivational speakers out there can prove my point. They know the process almost by instinct. Maybe not but it’s certainly well done and it takes some practice.
